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Gender
I Don’t Want to Talk About It, Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, Terry Real, LMFT
The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks
Communion: The Female Search for Love by bell hooks
Testosterone Rex: Unmaking the myths of our gendered minds by Cordelia Fine
Transgender History, second edition The Roots of Today's Revolution by Susan Stryker
Gender Euphoria: Stories of joy from trans, non-binary and intersex writers by Laura Kate Dale
He/She/They: How We Talk About Gender by Schuyler Bailar and Why It Matters
Body
Exile and Pride: Disability, Queerness, and Liberation by Eli Clare
The Body Is Not an Apology, Second Edition: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor
"You Just Need to Lose Weight": And 19 Other Myths About Fat People by Aubrey Gordon
Fat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture by Virginia Sole-Smith
What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon
Weightless: Making Space for My Resilient Body and Soul: by Evette Dionne
Relationships - Platonic
Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends by Marisa Franco
Belonging: The Science of Creating Connection and Bridging Divides by Geoffery Cohen
How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community by Mia Birdsong
Relationships - Sexual/Romantic
All about love: New Visions by bell hooks
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships by Jessica Fern with David Cooley
The New Rules of Marriage, What You Need to Know How to Make Love Work, Terry Real
What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal by John Gottman
Tell Me No Lies by Ellyn Bader Ph.D., Peter T. Pearson PhD, and Judith Schwartz
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary D Chapman
The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel
Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terrence Real
Divorce/Separation
Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Ever After by Katherine Woodward Thomas
Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate by Gabrielle Hartley and Elena Brower
Sexuality
Mating in Captivity: Understanding Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen
Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality by Julia Shaw
Bisexual Men Exist: A Handbook for Bisexual, Pansexual and M-Spec Men
Trauma
The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation by Deb Dana
Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory by Deb Dana,
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk MD
Affect Regulation and the Repair of the Self by Allan Schore
Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Interventions for Trauma and Attachment by Pat Ogden and Janina Fisher
The Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment by Babette Rothschild
The Body Bears the Burden: Trauma, Dissociation, and Disease by Robert Scaer
Race/Ethnicity
Asian American is Not a Color: Conversations on Race, Affirmative Action, and Family by OiYan A. Poon
Caste: The Origins of our Discontents by Isabel Wilkerson
Permission to Come Home: Reclaiming Mental Health as Asian Americans by Jenny Wang
Racial Melancholia, Racial Dissociation: On the Social and Psychic Lives of Asian Americans by David Eng & Shinhee Han
Black Fatigue: How Racism Erodes the Mind, Body, and Spirit by Mary-Frances Winters
All the White Friends I Couldn’t Keep by Andre Henry
Nice Racism: HOW PROGRESSIVE WHITE PEOPLE PERPETUATE RACIAL HARM by Robin DiAngelo
White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo
Minority Feelings: An Asian American Reckoning by Cathy Park Hong
The Loneliest Americans by Jay Caspian Kang
Grief
When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chodron
Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
The Myth of Closure: Ambiguous Loss in a Time of Pandemic and Change by Pauline Boss
Ambiguous Loss: Learning to Live with Unresolved Grief by Pauline Boss
It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand by Megan Devine
Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief
Queer Neurodivergency
Neuroqueer Heresies: Notes on the Neurodiversity Paradigm, Autistic Empowerment, and Postnormal Possibilities by Nick Walker
Unmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity by Devon Price PhD
Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference by Cordelia Fine
Divergent Mind: Thriving in a World That Wasn’t Designed for You by Jenara Nerenberg
Self-care
Books about therapy with people’s stories about therapy
Love’s Executioner: & Other Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom
On Becoming a Person: A Therapist’s View of Psychotherapy by Carl Rogers
The Family Crucible: The Intense Experience of Family Therapy by Augustus Napier with Carl Whitaker
Sometimes Therapy Is Awkward: A Collection of Life-Changing Insights for the Modern Clinician